The Real Reason You Keep Hesitating
Jan 14, 2026
Self Preservation
I just came out of a powerful training with my coach, Brad Bizjack, from his Rewire Your Brain workshop, and I’m still processing how deeply practical it was. I’m genuinely grateful for what I learned—not just as a coach, but as a human who still bumps into resistance, fear, and self-doubt just like everyone else.
One of the biggest takeaways was this: being stuck is rarely about laziness or lack of desire. It’s about self-preservation.
When we feel stuck, the first real question is, why?
Are we avoiding pain?
Are we protecting ourselves from disappointment?
Did we, somewhere along the way, connect success to stress, pressure, loss, or emotional risk?
Many of us did.
Your brain’s number one job is not happiness.
It’s safety.
So if at any point in your life success became associated with exhaustion, rejection, failure, or relational conflict, your brain learned something very important:
“Going after more is dangerous.”
And now, even when you consciously want more, your subconscious is quietly hitting the brakes.
Here’s the tricky part: knowing what’s holding you back doesn’t create change.
Awareness is powerful—but perception is what actually shapes your experience.
How you see your past, your present, and your future determines what your nervous system allows you to pursue.
That’s why two people can face the same opportunity and one feels energized while the other feels overwhelmed. They’re not reacting to the opportunity—they’re reacting to their perception of what it means.
And when we do this alone, everything feels heavier.
Isolation amplifies fear.
Community diffuses it.
When you process life with others, when someone else can help you see what you can’t, something shifts. Hope returns. Perspective expands. The nervous system settles.
Brad talked about how resistance shows up right before growth. That resistance isn’t failure—it’s your brain asking, “Is this safe?”
And if you don’t answer that question with a new perspective, it defaults to the old one.
Here’s the hard truth:
When we avoid the arena, we’re already living the worst-case scenario.
Playing small.
Staying stuck.
Keeping dreams theoretical.
That’s not protection—that’s slow erosion.
Self-preservation isn’t self-sabotage.
It’s a nervous system doing its job.
But it doesn’t get to decide your future.
What if you went all-in anyway—even messy, even uncertain?
Fear and risk don’t disappear first.
They dissolve through action.
If this stirred something in you, maybe it’s time to stop doing it alone. I’d love to explore this with you. A simple discovery call could be the first small step toward a very different future.
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